COMPASSION – ONE OF THE MAJOR KEYS TO LIFE

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When I was a little girl growing up in Kingston, Jamaica, I remember one Sunday, perhaps I was about seven or eight years old, my mother’s neighbor and arch nemesis Miss Will had her television on. Her apartment was in the middle of the house, ours was to the left, and another apartment was to the right. I remember staring inside her parlour at the television and seeing a woman in a wheel chair, she was shaking as if having a seizure. Seeing the woman cry while her whole body trembled made me began to cry uncontrollably. I thought I was watching someone suffering and as a child I had no understanding that this was just a film and not real. I had never been able to forget that scene since that day.

My memories as a young child growing up into adulthood has been one of deep empathy and deep compassion for people. I wanted to end the world’s suffering. In my mind I wanted everyone to be happy. I had never expressed how I felt but I know that I grew up wondering if that were at all possible. This character that is innate within me has allowed over time for people to take advantage of my good nature, of my soft heart, of my compassion for all and everything that lives and breathes. When I became pregnant with my first child and after which my mother told me to leave her house, I cannot say that I ever felt resentment for her at that time. Maybe my brain went into survival mode and I had no time to be resentful but to be honest, I am not a resentful person. It took me years to wonder how come a woman who taught me to be kind, generous, good to everyone, feed anyone who was hungry, all the goodness a parent could teach to a child, how could she have the heart to tell me who had no where to go, to leave her house? But as I have written here before in another post, now that I am older and a little bit more wiser, I realize that she is one of my greatest teachers and had to do as she did so as to set me on my path.

Today I want to talk about compassion. Compassion is: a deep awareness of and sympathy for another’s suffering or misfortune. In this world we are always focused on the emotion called love, to which there are many degrees. My own take on the meaning of love is that love is the single most significant element of happiness. Although love may have many variations to it in how each individual feels about a particular person or situation, the word itself is used frivolously by many. It is easy to tell another that you love them, but what I believe is most important in this life, which surpasses love or even the idea of love, is compassion.

Compassion is an emotion so strong that if all could feel it and react to it, it alone could end world suffering. A person who has compassion can never rob, rape or kill. A person who is compassionate can never see someone suffering and pass them by. A person who is compassionate could never harm even an animal. A person who is compassionate knows what real love is. A person who has innate compassion coupled with empathy for others is the most spiritually wealthy of persons who walk among us. You do not measure people off of materials or stature. The most wealthy of persons in the hierarchy’s of the Universe is one with compassion. So often we either meet or see people who are cold hearted with no feeling whatsoever for anyone but themselves,their response to life is them, who ever matters to them and no one else. Do you believe that a person such as this can ever elevate as how humans are suppose to? I say yes, in some cases. Because many who are like this are here to teach us compassion.

In the Christian Bible, especially in the New Testament where we meet Jesus Christ, if you can read with full understanding of his life you will realize that all he entailed and everything that he did, he was most compassionate. He felt the pain of the world and he wanted to alleviate the suffering of mankind. His own compassion enabled him to perform miracles which were so astounding that it created even enemies and prompted them to kill him. Yet while on the cross he begged God to forgive his own enemies. The bible wielding pastors have missed the true message of the bible. They preach on love which they say that Jesus changed the ten commandments and made love the number one commandment, but because many do not have the wisdom to know that the bible is only a metaphor for deeper understanding, they are not able to realize that all it taught, from Old Testament to New Testament, was compassion. That is one of the secrets of the bible. But to emphasize this would disallow the would-be rulers and conquerors of the world to rape, rob, and pillage as they did. They would not dare teach compassion. If the basis or the foundation of Christianity was built on compassion, slavery, the wickedest atrocity that has ever occurred, could never have happened. If compassion was apart of Muslim philosophy, there would be no Jihad.

People who do bad things in life, who hurt and injure people, are said to have no love within them. I disagree. I believe we all have love within us. Event he vilest of man will at one point in his life, have loved someone or something. But it is possible to love but not have compassion.

I am in Nigeria, where this country itself is looked upon by the international community as a country with scammers, fraudsters, or what they call here, 419 people. And although it may be too big of a stereotype for a country of over 200 million people, it is a fact there are many people like that here. Not only here but in all of the world. Here, however, you will find a person who is nice, loving and tender to you, be it man, woman or child. I am talking about anybody in general. But that love that they feel or the genuine like that they have for you will not let them think twice to commit a fraudulent act or scam against you if they find the opportunity. I highlight Africa because I am currently here, but this happens all over the world, even in America. If a person has genuine compassion in their heart, they could not find it anywhere inside of them to fraud someone they believe they love regardless of their economic situation.

However, if you find 1000 people only 5 will have the true and genuine feeling of compassion. Others will have it because they feel it is correct. It is easy to see the commercial of a starving child or to see a homeless person and feel the need to give. But many times this feeling is temporary. Today, you will give, tomorrow you forget. The person with true compassion, however, will not forget. The person with true compassion will take the same route of the homeless person and again hand him money, or clothing, or food or even simply an umbrella. This person will go home with that homeless person on their mind wondering how can they help? What can they do? Unbeknownst to that person, their own feeling of compassion sparks the wheel of love within the Universe and beckons to him or her millions of light conscious beings that will raise him spiritually, while he or she lives in this material world, to a higher spiritual plane. The kingdom of “heaven,” which you will find this saying in the Christian Bible (a metaphor, of course) is actually the works that the human being performs on earth, their reward will be in the realm of time and space. (Note: Although I do not practice Christianity, I know that there are wisdom in all texts, dogmas or doctrines and therefore I quote the bible merely because of familiarity). One of the Beatitudes of the bible is “blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God,” but what is the “pure in heart?” The pure in heart, here, represents a person who responds accordingly to their innate feeling to any particular situation without thought or reason. There is no agenda behind giving, there is no agenda behind loving, there is no agenda behind caring, there is no agenda behind even genuine dislike. Whatever emotion their heart sparks is how they respond. The pure in heart is the person who is innocent in all things that they do, even if the world seeks to correct them.

What is the nemesis of compassion? Unarguably, compassion wills it’s own power. Deep emotion, compassion being atop the pyramid of this, can spark a person to perform miracles. A stranger can pass a small child drowning in a river and they themselves cannot swim but are so moved with the emotion to save the child that they will dive into the waters and miraculously swim and save that child. It has been recorded already of persons coming to rescue people that are trapped under a heavy vehicle, finding the strength to lift whatever it is from the person, therefore relieving the person of their pain. Compassion is something you cannot will, it has to happen. It is something that is innate within the psyche, even if they were never taught to be so.

One of the 3 noblest teachings of the Buddha was to not be selfish, pass on knowledge, and have compassion. He never said love, and although love is important, there are variations to this emotion. Many can say “I love you” without a thought or meaning to it. Ifa Orunmila teaches iwa pele, or good and gentle character. Ifa says we must feel for each other. I implore all who will read this post today to look deep within themselves and to find their compassionate nature, to realize and know that we must care and feel for each other, aid and assist whenever and where ever we can. Yes, it is innate to have a compassionate nature, but if a person finds themselves without this feeling then they should pray that it be added to their character because we are all here in this earth plane on a journey towards our spiritual elevation, which is what matters within the realm of time and space from where we came. If you are found within this life or any other life without having compassion apart of your character or personality, then you can only go so far within your spiritual upliftment. Most of us who are here on this earth, unbeknownst to us, are here to show or to learn compassion.

Posts that I have written on compassion, read below;

http://embracingspirituality.com/2012/07/24/have-compassion/

http://embracingspirituality.com/2014/10/15/compassion/

 

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.

Dalai Lama

Our human compassion binds us the one to the other – not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future.

Nelson Mandela

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

Dalai Lama

Whether one believes in a religion or not, and whether one believes in rebirth or not, there isn’t anyone who doesn’t appreciate kindness and compassion.

Dalai Lama

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Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹ́’ni. / 

You do know who you love; but you can’t be certain of who really loves you……Yoruba Proverb!

[Be perceptive; appearance is not all there is]

Everything comes when it must, and everything happens for a reason, do not hurry your life, what is destined for you, cannot escape you, just keep the faith, be patient and be prayerful, filled with compassion, kindness and respect for all, let these qualities be among your name, God will fill in the rest…..Obara Meji!

All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love….Obara Meji

There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned!….Obara Meji

 

 

15 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. CarolineBritish
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 12:40:48

    Hi Obara Meji!

    Glad to have you back! You have blessed my week with this incredible post.

    Today in the wee hours of the morning, while on my break at work, I was chatting to a FB friend who lives in the US. She was feeling deeply troubled about her unborn baby’s future and the lack of support from her baby’s father. I was getting annoyed by the minute as she listed all his faults and eventually I blurted out “This is your first baby and his 3rd or 4th! As a religious leader, he should be at least compassionate towards you based on this alone.” I was appalled at how selfish he was being. It was therefore wonderful to see this post on compassion.

    I sincerely believe if men were compassionate towards their women, most relationships would be solid. Since we both love to draw out gems from the Bible (it is the most familiar holy book to Blacks), I like the Ephesians verse where God commands (does not ask) men to love their wives (and where love goes, compassion follows). And to show this word was deliberately picked, he commands (doesn’t ask) women to respect their husbands. In other words, this is the acknowledgement of our innate differences and what we need the **most** from the other sex. If I had a son and daughter, this is what I would teach them about relationships, because even the Kabbalah teaches that women who submit to and respect their husbands are spiritually elevated. It takes real strength to do so. I have only read books that teach women, so cannot speak on what happens to men who obey the above commandment.

    Thanks again Prof. You are such an awesome teacher and are truly loved and appreciated.

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    • Yw
      Jun 15, 2015 @ 15:27:28

      Greetings Obara Meji And the ES crew. Caroline British, Good Day, how ’bout a spot o tea? (in my finest British – not brutish – accent). I wanted to ask for your help in clarification of a thought you shared: “I sincerely believe if men were compassionate towards their women, most relationships would be solid.” and “….women who submit to and respect their husbands are spiritually elevated”.
      I agree that respecting your partner – on both sides – would make for a solid relationship and believe that compassion – on both sides – is the potential for dual elevation culminating into a singularity of light (i.e. when the two become one in spirit). However, I am unsure if you are saying that it is a woman’s responsibility to show strength by being submissive or compassionate within a relationship and by doing so she will be elevated…if this is what you are saying, I disagree. This last thought is an idea passed down within a patriarchal system to excuse various behaviours of men within our society from very early on. Keep in mind that in patriarchal systems, masculine qualities are linked to success which creates economic or financial inequity. What are the implications of this in regards to women or more importantly feminine characteristics? Even better, what are masculine vs. feminine qualities?
      Sorry if this is too much or if it has nothing to do with what you were saying….

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  2. Obara Meji
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 13:32:34

    Hi Caroline, you are HIGHLY intuitive, I must admit. You always manage to pick something from the bible that helped to lead me on my path. I am speaking of the Ephesian’s chapter that you quoted although I will not explain here how that is important to who I am now. “…even the Kabbalah teaches that women who submit to and respect their husbands are spiritually elevated. It takes real strength to do so.” Once upon a time I would have stamped my feet in anger and said hell no I will not accept this. But while doing the post today, I re-read another post which was an article done by the Dali Lama and in it he said this: “You should realize that even though your opponents appear to be harming you, in the end, their destructive activity will damage only themselves. In order to check your own selfish impulse to retaliate, you should recall your desire to practice compassion and assume responsibility for helping prevent the other person from suffering the consequences of his or her acts.”

    After reading this I juxtaposed what he said with my own relationship or when I hear anyone s, which I shout I do not like it, my little daughter, as I have written here on the blog before, advised me never to raise my voice when another voice is raised. In doing so then the one who is aggressive while I am calm will eventually see the error of his ways. So as you said before, where a relationship with a man and woman is concerned, if the man is aggressor and shouts, then there is nothing wrong for the woman to be calm. She is not being “submissive” or weak, she is actually the strongest in the relationship and is showing the most compassion. Caroline your comment made me 100% realize exactly what the Dali Lama meant and how to use it within my own life and relationship. Thank you.

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  3. Obara Meji
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 13:38:22

    Iron sharpenth iron and the countenance of one brightens the next one. I’ve always been critical of African women’s submissive nature towards their husband but now in writing the post, reading your comment, understanding what the Dali Lama wrote, I realize the error in my thoughts and that the western part of the world has indoctrinated or given the mindset to women that they must be strong and invincible and not to take bs from any man and also the men must exude their strength and dominate women. This reminds me of a movie quote which my daughter told me: “The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck.” This also shows that a person does not have to be vociferous in order to know their strength.

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  4. Obara Meji
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 13:39:46

    By the way I am still in initiation I am just resting in between time, in a couple of hours we will start again.

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  5. Yw
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 15:38:48

    Compassion….with love comes passion??? Love is a challenging emotion that is difficult to define. Tina says “What’s love got to do with it?” After all, who needs a heart when a heart can be broken…but love does not break hearts, betrayal does… but betrayal implies expectations…but expectations are not a part of love…

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    • Spiritual Seeker
      Jun 15, 2015 @ 17:06:23

      You are on to something there, brother Yw. Lots of times what people think is love isn’t even love at all…not real, pure love anyway.

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      • Yw
        Jun 15, 2015 @ 20:05:32

        That is the thing, SS. Some mix love with ideas of attachment, possession, desire, and other things that have zero to do with love. With that I say love and light to you, SS.

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  6. Spiritual Seeker
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 16:53:54

    Hi Obara and ES crew!

    Was away on vacation for a couple of weeks. Glad to come back to such a good post.

    I believe that compassion is the ultimate of what religions are all supposed to teach, but because of culture and politics and other man-made nonsense, almost all religions fall short of this. But it’s a part of the most important lessons that we as human beings have to learn. It’s the most easiest (innate) trait and yet the most difficult trait to develop because as we grow from infancy to adulthood we have been brainwashed to learn competition, division, ego, selfishness, and “machismo” as qualities needed to win and survive in this world and that compassion, humility, selflessness, understanding, gentleness as weak and foolish. We all have to be conscious of it (men and women alike) and learn to see ourselves in and a part of each other.

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  7. NuNu
    Jun 15, 2015 @ 19:01:08

    Good evening folks! Mi feel like stranger to fennay. Hope the ES fam good.I like these quotes Compassion is a foundation for sharing our aliveness and building a more humane world and I would rather feel compassion than know the meaning of it. This is def one thing we can’t have too much of especially in this hard, brutal world. It seems like we’re regressing.

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  8. queenleelee1
    Jun 16, 2015 @ 02:27:08

    Reading this post was like eating my favorite meal. It stimulated all my senses..I absolutely loved itmi ago post it now on mi Facebook page. .Queenleelee out..mi gone hype bout mi Teacha

    Oraba bless up youself

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  9. Cher
    Jun 16, 2015 @ 08:30:03

    Good morning Obara and the blogger family. I enjoyed this post. Ever since I was younger going to high school in Jamaica and church, I always make mention that I personally do not believe in this term people loosely use saying ‘ I love you ‘ to me their actions did not match the words of love they were professing especially the church leaders for us youths at the time, and also my peers( girlfriends). I always say to people I would rather you respect me than tell me you love me, because when you have a certain respect for others certain things you will never do to them. I believe I posses the traits of empathy and compassion as stated above in the article. I always feel other people’s pain and often times getting myself in trouble defending them ever since I can remember. I still do up until this day. Thanks teach! Blessings to everyone. Love and light.

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